• A woman is asking Redditors for advice after getting into an uncomfortable situation with a friend

• The woman was planning her own two-month trip through Asia, and invited any friends to cross paths with her at any point

• However, one friend took the invitation too far

A woman is reaching out to the Reddit community for support after a solo trip she meticulously planned took an unexpected turn with a friend.

For the past six months, the 20-year-old poster has been organizing a two-month adventure through Asia, booking flights and accommodations well in advance.

“I always saw this as my trip – something I was doing alone, but open to overlapping with friends here or there,” she explains in her post. Her journey was meant to be a personal experience, though she didn’t mind the idea of crossing paths with others along the way.

The situation grew complicated when a 30-year-old male friend expressed interest in traveling as well. She recalls, “In person, I said that if he was free, maybe we could overlap,” but nothing was set in stone, she adds.

Later, when he asked for her itinerary, she shared it, but made no effort to plan the trip with him or ask for his input. “I’d already made most of the arrangements on my own,” she says, emphasizing that her plans were already finalized.

Less than a week before her trip was set to begin, her friend revealed that he had booked flights to follow her route. “He’d been sick for a while, so I wasn’t even sure he was still going,” she writes, surprised by his last-minute confirmation.

When she clarified that she still intended to travel solo and not as a pair, her friend became upset. He referenced an old message in which she said, “this is as much your trip as mine,” using it as evidence that she misled him.

The poster clarified that she only made that comment to be kind when he was apologizing for being sick and slow to confirm his plans. “We never actually planned anything together or had a conversation about traveling as a pair. He just adopted my itinerary,” she shares.

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Her friend expressed disappointment, saying he wouldn’t have booked the same route if he’d known they weren’t traveling together. The poster admits she feels bad for his disappointment and apologized for not being more explicit earlier.

Still, she questions whether she should be blamed for assumptions he never communicated. “He didn’t ask questions, didn’t help plan, and could’ve just picked one country to overlap in instead of mimicking my full two-month trip,” she writes.

Commenters are telling her to look out for herself.

“This is creepy as heck,” says one. “If you can, change your itinerary and block him. No 30 year old man in their right mind books a trip with a 20 year old girl. Heck I’m a 30 year old girl and I would feel really weird about booking a trip with a 20 year old girl unless she had very specifically invited me to join her. Even being friends with someone your age would feel weird to me unless it was a family member or like the little sister of my best friend. A 30 year old man being good enough friends with a 20 year old girl to “overlap” trips is a huge red flag.”

Adds another, “The audacity of him to try and join your trip without ever actually asking you and then to blame you when you clarify that this was your trip and you were doing it solo is…I can’t even. You might want to rethink your friendship with this guy. I guarantee his intentions were not pure.”

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